What my MOST successful clients do

Want to know what my MOST successful clients do to lose their weight and keep it off forever?

Sure, they learn to listen to their bodies – to eat only when they’re hungry and stop when they’re satisfied, not stuffed.

And then they learn to get really good at FAILING.

That’s right. I didn’t say they get really good at doing everything perfectly or turning into diet robots who NEVER make mistakes.

They get really really good at making mistakes and then recovering.

At having a slip up and then getting back up again.

Of learning from failure and moving right on to their next best decision.

It’s not perfection that leads to long-term results, it’s persistence.

It’s building the skill of doing things imperfectly and not beating yourself up.

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How good are you at failing right now?

When you make a mistake – you overeat, you eat something you hadn’t planned, you have a binge – what do you say to yourself?

Do you use it as an excuse to be mean to yourself – to try to shame yourself into doing better next time?

Or to ruminate on how hard things are for you?

Or to berate yourself?

Or to tell yourself you’ll never figure it out?

If you answered yes to any (or ALL) of those questions – THAT’S why you’re not succeeding. THAT’S what’s in the way of your weight loss.

The self-loathing, the blaming, the complaining, the beat-downs. They’re pushing you farther away from your goal.

Because it feels TERRIBLE.

And when we FEEL terrible, terrible ACTIONS follow.

Actions like searching for more evidence that we suck or that our goals are impossible for us, NOT searching for solutions, and instead eating and drinking from relief from our own inner critic.

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Instead of beating yourself up when you fail (which makes it WAY more likely that you’ll exhaust yourself and quit) – you have to learn how to find the lesson in your slip ups.

Because the truth is weight loss comes at the end of a LONG string of failures.

It’s what happens AFTER you fail that matters.

So next time you have a failure, a setback, or a slip up – DO NOT beat yourself up.

Do this instead:

Practice Compassion

Think about it – in school, did you learn more from the teachers who were cold, harsh, and mean or from the ones who were understanding, supportive and inspiring?

When we feel understood and cared for, we do better. Give that to yourself.

Find the Lesson

There’s a reason behind every overeat – search for it until you find it.

Ask yourself questions until you discover WHY you overate.

Questions like:

What do I think was going on for me?

Was I scared? Stressed? Overwhelmed?

What was I thinking that made me feel that way?

Did overeating even help solve my problem?

What do I think I *really* needed at that moment?

How can I give that to myself next time?

USE The Information to Get STRONGER

Imagine if every single time you had a slip up on your weight loss journey, you ditched the self-judgment and asked yourself the simple questions above.

You’d feel a HELL of a lot better, and you would start to notice the patterns, excuses, and unhelpful self-talk that keeps you stuck.

You would find solutions with compassion and curiosity, rather than beating up on yourself.

You would be figuring out where you went off course so that you can do better next time.

You’d be learning, and growing, and overcoming your challenges.

And you would lose weight.

The fail is just the beginning.

What will you do the next time you fail?

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